Why am I saying anything right now? Because I believe I have some value to share with the world, or at least another person. Aggravating as advice and comments

Why am I saying anything right now? Because I believe I have some value to share with the world, or at least another person. Aggravating as advice and comments can be, they can be a small building block to a better world, including helping someone do a better job, even for its own sake. It's surprisingly hard for us as listeners to advice to remain calm and interpret it objectively. Why? Resistance to being controlled is a big part of it as you said. When is that a productive emotion? Are there times it holds us back?