> 8. Watch how they handle unexpected problems This is what I started doing in my relationships in the past, to get a glimpse how things really look like in th

> 8. Watch how they handle unexpected problems This is what I started doing in my relationships in the past, to get a glimpse how things really look like in the beginning when (almost) all is rosy (and thus untrue). Conflicts arise often from simple misunderstandings, nobody messed up anything there were just different expectations on both sides for example. Not creating a bad situation on purpose, they tend to come by themselves eventually. Its a normal reaction to go and fix things immediately but I advise to instead once just stay and watch the other, if he/she is a fixer or escalator of problems. If there is quiet talk, hugs, empathy or tantrums, yelling and various dramas. In the beginning of relationships, people who care about it tend to wear thick masks and tend to be more open/tolerant than they really are. Till there is a conflict, problem or similar stressor, then one is dealing with much more raw material. If 2 greatly matching balanced people meet, this is not so useful, but for more psycho ladies I've met in the past this would have been a great initial litmus paper (and in fact was on one which is why I came up with this). Much better to stop unhealthy relationships in the beginning and just move on to something better, rather than trying hard to compensate for/fix other's childhood burdens (which is almost impossible anyway, there are professionals and decades of work for such things)