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Honestly, i don't think there's a single answer because there isn't a single audience. One issue I encounter is in group discussions e.g. management meetings.
by austinjp 4y ago
Honestly, i don't think there's a single answer because there isn't a single audience.
One issue I encounter is in group discussions e.g. management meetings. Lack of detail up-front leads to derailment from edge-cases or whataboutery as the conversation moves on. Whereas excessive detail up-front leads to derailment from nit-picking, or abject boredom, or failing to catch all the detail.
During this sort of conversation I scribble notes about the points I want to raise. Then let everyone else talk to see if my points are raised or if I learn something new. Finally, I try to raise points by saying something like "there are three things I'd say about X", followed by a super-brief headline for each point. Single sentences. That should be enough, but if not, I'd expand each as required.
But even this has issues. Management meetings can be fraught, and time is scarce. Waiting until after others have spoken means that they may have sucked the life from the conversation and people may be impatient to move on. I'm aware of coming across as someone who simply wants to stick their beak into every conversation.
So, I've tried to be more Zen and simply let things go, or take certain conversations off-line i.e. discuss in depth outside the room. Results vary.
Good luck! :)
- 100011_100001 4y agoI'm a thinker, but when I start talking my brain freezes up. Maybe I need to start writing things down like you, this will allow me to organize my thoughts before I share them. Thanks.
- austinjp 4y agoYeah, this is actually what prompted me to always have pen and paper (or similar) on hand during meetings. It's a crutch, but I think it's helped me be more organised when talking generally. Even in non-work situations I often make mental notes while listening to others talk about complex subjects (politics for instance). Just bullet-points/headlines so when I start talking I know "okay I've got three things to say: X, Y, Z". It helps me keep track in fast-paced conversations. But again, letting go of some things can be more important than saying everything you want to say.