I think the causality is inverted here. People who don't understand themselves will not understand others (and won't feel the need to). At the most superficial

I think the causality is inverted here. People who don't understand themselves will not understand others (and won't feel the need to). At the most superficial level, almost everybody is a nice guy... Dig deeper and almost nobody is. My loneliness is a measure of other people's lack of self-understanding. I know this because I get along best with people who understand themselves. These people are more genuine because they're not caught up in the pursuit of memetic desires. There are very few such people.