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Yeah my boss just turned it around on me. And I guess he was right? I did have the power to change in that situation. But it made asking for help kind of poin

• spoiler 4y ago
  Don't be so harsh on yourself. It seems like your boss maybe didn't hear or properly understand you reaching out for help. It was a brave thing to do, since it shows vulnerability. But don't be too harsh on your boss either (maybe! I don't know the full situation). I don't know the full situation, but it is possible that when you asked for help maybe he felt like you're complaining about him. So he got defensive. I know that sounds a bit immature, but everyone's a bit immature sometimes. Also, instead of framing it as pity, think of it as having compassion and understanding for yourself instead. I know it's hard to reframe it if you have a long habit of negative self talk, though (been there done that, and I still sometimes end up there accidentally sometimes)
  • mansoon 4y ago
    I’m more trying to push things past an ending these days.
• FooHentai 4y ago
  Managers that do that are objectively shit managers. Sure, if your employee whines about every little thing expecting you to fix it all the time, turning it around on them is appropriate to foster some level of help-yourself capabity. But if your employee is selectively choosing to bring an issue to you as a request for assistance, turning it around on them is the same as 'fuck you, I'm not helping'. Bad manager. People don't quit jobs, they quit bosses. That is the kind of boss you might consider quitting, because they are poor at their job and do not have your back. In fact they are not even really listening to you.