Yeah, for what it's worth, none of this is absolutist. You're looking for patterns over time. Everyone has good days and bad days (and that's worth remembering

Yeah, for what it's worth, none of this is absolutist. You're looking for patterns over time. Everyone has good days and bad days (and that's worth remembering on both sides of the exchange), but someone with a pattern of either treating people they consider subordinate badly or cheating those around them is telling you something about how they view the world outside themselves, which includes you.