I think you are looking too much into it. The point about cheating wasn't 'look for someone who never does anything wrong', but more like, if they think they ca

I think you are looking too much into it. The point about cheating wasn't 'look for someone who never does anything wrong', but more like, if they think they can get away with something that benefits them in way that exposes a lack of integrity (cheating at a game for no stakes and not telling you about it) then you they probably are either: 1. Ego-driven (losses makes them mad) and/or 2. Cannot evaluate risk/reward properly (getting caught cheating significantly hurts your reputation and you gain nothing from doing it in a friendly game) and/or 3. Are basically dishonest as a rule (untrustworthy) The way I would handle that situation is not to mark down 'bad person' in my ledger, but to confront them 'hey, I saw you cheating back there, what was that about?' and see how they deal with it. I don't see these as 'let's all judge everyone', because everyone would fail all of these bullet points. It is more like 'here are some things that can help you evaluate people'. Just like any hokey self-help guide, it is pretty much blatantly obvious stuff that we do anyway without thinking about it, but it can be helpful to be self-aware so that you can alter your own mechanisms.