I was hoping for this to be a eye-opening list, but don't know which ones apply even moderately to myself or which ones I can apply effectively. On the whole I

I was hoping for this to be a eye-opening list, but don't know which ones apply even moderately to myself or which ones I can apply effectively. On the whole I haven't had clashes with character very much and am quite self-sufficient so not so much impact there. Sure, I've trusted the wrong people and lost out but that's the cost of living and trusting people--sometimes you get it wrong. 1. who they marry: however the chemicals worked out some critically fateful days 2. treat service workers: this might be a good one (unless they're wise to it and faking it) 3. early life: hit-or-miss I suspect. What you really want is to know what drives them. I'm mostly driven by a desire for knowledge and craft but I can't point to where in my childhood that came from. 4. time & money: I tend to either waste both of them or have more than I can effectively use. knowledge & craft doesn't cost much to feed 5. what people irritate them: this one's probably more applicable when younger. Now when someone's getting on my nerve I might recognize my younger self. That gives me some compassion, more patience, and a slightly laughing sigh. 6. talk, listen, neither: Hmm. work-wise sometimes discussions can get to talking past each other because they both have valid points being expressed but can't communicate both simultaneously. Talking is sync, listening is sometimes async (delayed). Doesn't make bad people, just bad communicators like most. 7. cheating: I knew one guy who was super non-cheating on games, splitting bills, etc. He cheats on his girlfriend(s?). Knows how to game it. 8. handle unexpected problems: doing nothing is actually pretty good. One time a shared network server got it's main documents volume wiped. I was working late and someone told me about it. I had admin access. We went for dinner, I can't think without food. Came back and found that there's a way to undelete from a Novell Fileserver. I enlisted whoever was there to manually undelete about 10k files, including ones meant to be gone as we couldn't tell. I think this is better used as a list of how to fool people about your character. So basically I don't think there's much point in judging people. If you get the sense they're untrustworthy, don't associate too much. I think it's better to find out how you can get along with them in a professional or social setting. If I had to say there's one character flaw that I can't stand, it's people who assert their value system over others for no purpose--like telling a vegetarian there's no meat in there because they don't think it matters.