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I would politely disagree, I think there's a fine road between both of what you are saying here. Oftentimes people do project outward their hate because they ha

I would politely disagree, I think there's a fine road between both of what you are saying here. Oftentimes people do project outward their hate because they hate it in themselves -- we are creatures with much logical momentum unfortunately, and many conflicts can arise when people try to paper over their own biases and *isms. It's not psychobabble, it's a phenomenon that has been very well demonstrated and is commonly accepted today as a part of an evidence-based practice for trauma resolution. Some of the examples you brought up were fallacious, though I unfortunately don't have any good resources to point you to. As far as the first point, I could see it going either way. I know where many people came from in their early years, and it is actually the fuel that helps me give them respect when they act in inappropriate manners considering the situation at hand -- I can recontextualize and see where they are coming from. It gives me empathy, an ability to connect to them, and an ability to fundamentally feel safe enough to better love them.

jstarfish 4y ago
> It's not psychobabble, it's a phenomenon that has been very well demonstrated and is commonly accepted today as a part of an evidence-based practice for trauma resolution. I came across more dismissive than intended. You are right. The author mentions it in the context of interviewing, not therapy. If a psychologist wants to draw that conclusion based on intimate knowledge shared with them, so be it, but the layman does not have that context-- so rules-of-thumb like "it takes one to know one" leads to dangerously-misguided conclusions. Bob doesn't like pedophiles, ergo Bob is a pedophile? It's wrong more often than right and should not be used as a metric of anything [by laymen]. > As far as the first point, I could see it going either way. I know where many people came from in their early years, and it is actually the fuel that helps me give them respect when they act in inappropriate manners considering the situation at hand -- I can recontextualize and see where they are coming from. It gives me empathy, an ability to connect to them, and an ability to fundamentally feel safe enough to better love them. Absolutely! Talk to your friends, family, or therapist, but you'd be wise not to reveal too much of yourself to someone whose position betrays their own power-seeking behavior.

jstarfish 4y ago

> It's not psychobabble, it's a phenomenon that has been very well demonstrated and is commonly accepted today as a part of an evidence-based practice for trauma resolution. I came across more dismissive than intended. You are right. The author mentions it in the context of interviewing, not therapy. If a psychologist wants to draw that conclusion based on intimate knowledge shared with them, so be it, but the layman does not have that context-- so rules-of-thumb like "it takes one to know one" leads to dangerously-misguided conclusions. Bob doesn't like pedophiles, ergo Bob is a pedophile? It's wrong more often than right and should not be used as a metric of anything [by laymen]. > As far as the first point, I could see it going either way. I know where many people came from in their early years, and it is actually the fuel that helps me give them respect when they act in inappropriate manners considering the situation at hand -- I can recontextualize and see where they are coming from. It gives me empathy, an ability to connect to them, and an ability to fundamentally feel safe enough to better love them. Absolutely! Talk to your friends, family, or therapist, but you'd be wise not to reveal too much of yourself to someone whose position betrays their own power-seeking behavior.