I don't think it's actually a case of "spend less and you can save for some goal, like a home" but more like "why spend less now when no matter how much I save,

I don't think it's actually a case of "spend less and you can save for some goal, like a home" but more like "why spend less now when no matter how much I save, even my whole paycheck, houses aren't going to be affordable to me EVER". I have a really good salary, but where my family lives we absolutely cannot afford to ever buy a house, based on what inflation looks like. I could save everything we had except for rent and grocery costs and we still couldn't save at a rate to match home inflation for the past 10 years. Don't say to "just move", because our roots are here and that's absurd to suggest that we cut ties with everyone we know just to have a chance at the old "american dream".