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No, the alternative requires a bit more thinking on you part instead of blaming individuals. For the record there's a whole subreddit dedicated to your "advice

No, the alternative requires a bit more thinking on you part instead of blaming individuals. For the record there's a whole subreddit dedicated to your "advice" https://www.reddit.com/r/thanksimcured/ https://www.reddit.com/r/thanksimcured/

xyzelement 4y ago
The "blaming" is in your head, not in my comment So question to you - if you have a fat and poor friend who's getting unhealthier by the second - how do you help him? What will you actually do?
- PuppyTailWags 4y ago
  Depends on why the friend is fat and poor. Could be they're disabled, in which case they're basically SOL. Wheelchairs are incredibly expensive, it's hard to cook in one unless one pays $$$ for home modifications, removes a wide range of exercise options...
  - carlgreene 4y ago
    The friend is fat and poor because they eat unhealthy, spend most of their time sitting down watching YouTube or playing games, and work a low skill job because they do not have a skill that will pay them more. What do you do with said friend?
    - goodpoint 4y ago
      You are describing depression without using the word "depression". And, again, it does not get treated by telling people "just go jogging".
      - s1artibartfast 4y ago
        Eventually, yes it does. Most therapists will coach the depressed to exert self control and do things they don't want to. Medication can help, but behavioral change and pattern formation are crucial to recovery and preventing relapse. Most of it boils down to just do x, even if you don't want to, because you logically know it is important in combatting depression.
        int_19h 4y ago
        That "eventually" covers a lot of ground, and is literally the opposite of "just" in "just do it". Therapists help you get to the point where you can actually do something.
        s1artibartfast 4y ago
        Your mileage may vary, but my experience is that they tell you to just do it, explaining the reasons why it comes down to just doing it each time. They listen to your BS reasons for not doing it in between to let you vent, then tell you again that if you want to do it just do it. I readily admit that there are differences between a therapist and a random internet stranger. An internet stranger is not paid to listen to your excuses and work them around to the question of why don't you just do it. Some people seriously need the coaxing and empathetic here. At the end of the day however, the message is the same. You want to do it, just do it.
acheron 4y ago
Reddit people complaining about something is a good sign that whatever it is is correct.
s1artibartfast 4y ago
There is a also a different subreddit dedicated to the advice r/loseit. It would be interesting to see which type of thinking has better weight loss outcomes.

xyzelement 4y ago

The "blaming" is in your head, not in my comment So question to you - if you have a fat and poor friend who's getting unhealthier by the second - how do you help him? What will you actually do?

PuppyTailWags 4y ago
Depends on why the friend is fat and poor. Could be they're disabled, in which case they're basically SOL. Wheelchairs are incredibly expensive, it's hard to cook in one unless one pays $$$ for home modifications, removes a wide range of exercise options...
- carlgreene 4y ago
  The friend is fat and poor because they eat unhealthy, spend most of their time sitting down watching YouTube or playing games, and work a low skill job because they do not have a skill that will pay them more. What do you do with said friend?
  - goodpoint 4y ago
    You are describing depression without using the word "depression". And, again, it does not get treated by telling people "just go jogging".
    - s1artibartfast 4y ago
      Eventually, yes it does. Most therapists will coach the depressed to exert self control and do things they don't want to. Medication can help, but behavioral change and pattern formation are crucial to recovery and preventing relapse. Most of it boils down to just do x, even if you don't want to, because you logically know it is important in combatting depression.
      - int_19h 4y ago
        That "eventually" covers a lot of ground, and is literally the opposite of "just" in "just do it". Therapists help you get to the point where you can actually do something.
        s1artibartfast 4y ago
        Your mileage may vary, but my experience is that they tell you to just do it, explaining the reasons why it comes down to just doing it each time. They listen to your BS reasons for not doing it in between to let you vent, then tell you again that if you want to do it just do it. I readily admit that there are differences between a therapist and a random internet stranger. An internet stranger is not paid to listen to your excuses and work them around to the question of why don't you just do it. Some people seriously need the coaxing and empathetic here. At the end of the day however, the message is the same. You want to do it, just do it.

acheron 4y ago

Reddit people complaining about something is a good sign that whatever it is is correct.

s1artibartfast 4y ago

There is a also a different subreddit dedicated to the advice r/loseit. It would be interesting to see which type of thinking has better weight loss outcomes.