[author here] counter argument: some forms of yes have a "carrying cost". sometimes counterfactual (opportunity cost), sometimes mental, sometimes financial. so

[author here] counter argument: some forms of yes have a "carrying cost". sometimes counterfactual (opportunity cost), sometimes mental, sometimes financial. some yeses are simply not worth it, then you get the counterswing phase where you go "hell yes or no" (aka default no to most things). i recommend figuring out a happy middle between the two rather than swinging thru the extremes. further nuance - keeping the option of saying yes (as opposed to directly saying yes) also has a carrying cost: https://www.thecrimson.com/article/2017/5/25/desai-commencement-ed/ https://www.thecrimson.com/article/2017/5/25/desai-commencem...