I don't think this is an "external solution" thing. Some random gender-neutral ideas for becoming more interesting to others and being more interested in them:

I don't think this is an "external solution" thing. Some random gender-neutral ideas for becoming more interesting to others and being more interested in them: - Read widely, both fiction and nonfiction. Become interested in and even familiar with experiences outside your own comfort zone. - Work on empathy and tolerance. Be ready to hear and even validate things you don't fully agree with, whether it's politically or epistemologically. Learn to respect others and see them as people with full life experiences, rather than merely as potential partners or friends to enhance your life experience. - Get life experience that is interesting. Note that this doesn't mean traveling widely or having an "interesting" job. In fact sometimes those things make you seem boring and are anyways often inaccessible. There are more accessible things to do, like volunteering with people who have different experiences than you, working on a local cause that is important to you, or learning to make art that represents your feelings. - Make yourself go outside. The world is outside. Learn about the history of your local area and visit the important places in it. - Pay a little bit of attention to things like hygiene, grooming, clothes. You don't have to go crazy, just shower thoroughly every day, get regular haircuts, and wear clothes that roughly match your age. - As others have mentioned, find somewhere with a stable group of people and show up consistently. - Get therapy, even if you think you don't need it. Most people need it. - Avoid toxic X. Masculinity, femininity, whatever. Being lonely can make you feel like you need a rubric to follow. Don't buy it. Don't even take what I'm saying above as a rubric. Ultimately the goal isn't to find an app that matches you with the perfect person or group of people, but to become someone who is interesting to and interested in more people overall. I empathize with the fact that people are sometimes hard to like, but almost everyone has something to recommend them if you are willing to listen, and so do you if you're willing to explore and expand yourself and share that with others.