IMO, you've failed to point to how my comment questioned anyone's life choices or gave any advice outside of following HN guidelines. I didn't misquote; I said

IMO, you've failed to point to how my comment questioned anyone's life choices or gave any advice outside of following HN guidelines. I didn't misquote; I said "amounts to" in order to indicate I was paraphrasing because it seemed like it would benefit from rephrasing since it appeared we were talking past each other. Although what you've pointed out comes across as a difference without a distinction to me. Saying "No one is going to talk to me into BEING..." is just as apt to shut down healthy conversation.