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The problem there isn't the tool ("one on one") but the surrounding process in your organization from what it sounds like. In my experience, having a weekly 1:

by dewey 4y ago

The problem there isn't the tool ("one on one") but the surrounding process in your organization from what it sounds like. In my experience, having a weekly 1:1 with your manager works really well. If that's a frequent and regular occurrence, there's nothing uncomfortable about it. It's a weekly block of time where you can discuss the priorities, give feedback, talk about things outside of work or start salary negotiations or role changes. If there's a week where there's nothing new it'll just be 5 minutes long, but having a regular no-pressure event is a lot less stressful than having a scheduled 1:1 come out of nowhere or once or twice a year.

geuis 4y ago
You completely missed my point. I'm not talking about managers, I'm talking about how fucking awkward it is to talk to people. We're mostly all a bunch of nerds. Lots of common ground, below average social skills. (I'm intentionally being facetious here.) Small groups of 3-4 people with similar interests are WAY easier to feel comfortable in and get interesting conversations going.
- dewey 4y ago
  Even for "nerds" there are usually people where they don't feel awkward about talking to them (Friends, family, online regulars,...). My point is that by not making a 1:1 a big event but rather a regular occurrence it'll be just become part of a regular week, and not a big event or something to feel awkward about. This is very different to meeting an online stranger you have never interacted with every week.
  - throwaway4aday 4y ago
    > This is very different to meeting an online stranger you have never interacted with every week. Isn't that what's happening in this app? From the landing page: > Every week, you are matched with another dev automatically for a 1 on 1 call. So it's going to super awkward for people that don't like cold starts with strangers. I agree with the other commenter but I've also seen responses in other comments that say some people prefer 1-on-1s to groups so I say, why not both? Just have a preference that says if you want to do 1-on-1 or a small group and let people choose. That way if you change your mind or want to try out the other type you can switch.

by dewey 4y ago

geuis 4y ago

You completely missed my point. I'm not talking about managers, I'm talking about how fucking awkward it is to talk to people. We're mostly all a bunch of nerds. Lots of common ground, below average social skills. (I'm intentionally being facetious here.) Small groups of 3-4 people with similar interests are WAY easier to feel comfortable in and get interesting conversations going.

dewey 4y ago
Even for "nerds" there are usually people where they don't feel awkward about talking to them (Friends, family, online regulars,...). My point is that by not making a 1:1 a big event but rather a regular occurrence it'll be just become part of a regular week, and not a big event or something to feel awkward about. This is very different to meeting an online stranger you have never interacted with every week.
- throwaway4aday 4y ago
  > This is very different to meeting an online stranger you have never interacted with every week. Isn't that what's happening in this app? From the landing page: > Every week, you are matched with another dev automatically for a 1 on 1 call. So it's going to super awkward for people that don't like cold starts with strangers. I agree with the other commenter but I've also seen responses in other comments that say some people prefer 1-on-1s to groups so I say, why not both? Just have a preference that says if you want to do 1-on-1 or a small group and let people choose. That way if you change your mind or want to try out the other type you can switch.