3 ms·

It is interesting to see the differences in how people handle negativity online. Some people have no problem ignoring negativity and moving on. Others get satis

It is interesting to see the differences in how people handle negativity online. Some people have no problem ignoring negativity and moving on. Others get satisfaction in hitting the block button. Others can't let it go and will eventually let negativity consume them and burn them out. Learning how to shrug it off is imperative for anyone who wants to post something online. If you can't ignore negative comments and move on without getting worked up, sharing anything from open source to social media isn't a good idea. Save yourself the stress.

FatActor 4y ago
> If you can't ignore negative comments and move on without getting worked up Expecting everyone to have your opinion is literally entitlement. Perhaps consider empathizing and addressing the complexities root cause rather than just shrugging it off as, "boys will be boys."
- uSoldering 4y ago
  If anyone is entitled in this discussion it would be the people expecting to be spoken to in their preferred tone. Perhaps consider that you will never be able to control the actions of other people and that you can only control the actions (and reactions) of yourself.
  - deleted 4y ago
    [deleted]
- ameister14 4y ago
  I don't understand your point. Are you agreeing that you should simply shrug it off because not everyone will have your opinion, or are you disagreeing?
kijin 4y ago
It also depends on which platform you're on. Traditional forum software has lots of moderation tools at your disposal. Chat software tends to be more limited. GitHub has virtually no tooling for moderatings issues/PRs and blocking abusive people. It's much harder to ignore negativity when you can't decisively remove them from your working environment.
dnissley 4y ago
> Some people have no problem ignoring negativity and moving on. Others get satisfaction in hitting the block button. Not sure if you were trying to set up this dichotomy, but there's a middle ground here where you recognize yourself as someone who has trouble letting it go and can use the block button to help you ignore and move on without feeling perversely satisfied by it.

FatActor 4y ago

> If you can't ignore negative comments and move on without getting worked up Expecting everyone to have your opinion is literally entitlement. Perhaps consider empathizing and addressing the complexities root cause rather than just shrugging it off as, "boys will be boys."

uSoldering 4y ago
If anyone is entitled in this discussion it would be the people expecting to be spoken to in their preferred tone. Perhaps consider that you will never be able to control the actions of other people and that you can only control the actions (and reactions) of yourself.
- deleted 4y ago
  [deleted]
ameister14 4y ago
I don't understand your point. Are you agreeing that you should simply shrug it off because not everyone will have your opinion, or are you disagreeing?

kijin 4y ago

It also depends on which platform you're on. Traditional forum software has lots of moderation tools at your disposal. Chat software tends to be more limited. GitHub has virtually no tooling for moderatings issues/PRs and blocking abusive people. It's much harder to ignore negativity when you can't decisively remove them from your working environment.

dnissley 4y ago

> Some people have no problem ignoring negativity and moving on. Others get satisfaction in hitting the block button. Not sure if you were trying to set up this dichotomy, but there's a middle ground here where you recognize yourself as someone who has trouble letting it go and can use the block button to help you ignore and move on without feeling perversely satisfied by it.