From the parent poster: > > "I think you're missing the case where the hospital is trying to let you know about the state of your loved one." But how is any i

From the parent poster: > > "I think you're missing the case where the hospital is trying to let you know about the state of your loved one." But how is any information about the state of someone will impact the course of actions for that person? > He'd have died anyway Exactly this. Maybe it's stoicism, but personally I don't know how I would be upset about actions I couldn't change. If anything, the voicemail saved your brother a good night of sleep, that would have been otherwise wasted doing... what exactly? Pre mourning? Creating some familial unity by suffering together? Scaring him emotionally by having to hold the hand of a dying person? I just don't understand all this.