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My take is that there's really nothing to say. Anyone looking at having children (or any other relationship really) through the lens of cost/benefit will arriv

by Tade0 4y ago

My take is that there's really nothing to say. Anyone looking at having children (or any other relationship really) through the lens of cost/benefit will arrive at the logical conclusion that it's a huge investment with an uncertain reward, so likely not worth it from that perspective. There's no arguing with logical reasoning. People in the developed world(or adjancent) have children anyway because they allow themselves to not apply such thinking for once.

rubidium 4y ago
The lens of cost / benefit is no way to live, and is a sure road to misery. Scrooge.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago
  There is a balance. Surely it is reasonable for cost / benefit to cross the mind of a woman, who has to sacrifice at least some portion of her health, and become dependent on others for an unknown amount of time.
balfirevic 4y ago
> Anyone looking at having children (or any other relationship really) through the lens of cost/benefit will arrive at the logical conclusion that it's a huge investment with an uncertain reward, so likely not worth it from that perspective. Many people with children talk about how much more wonderful their life has been since they've had them (including here in HN comments). If you think there is a good chance of that happening to you, that's the "benefit" in the cost/benefit analysis and having children can end up being the logical conclusion.
lotsofpulp 4y ago
>People in the developed world(or adjancent) have children anyway because they allow themselves to not apply such thinking for once. I assume you meant developing world, in which case the reason is probably that many women do not have the opportunity to apply such thinking, due to lacking financial independence and/or access to highly effective contraception such as IUDs.
- Tade0 4y ago
  > I assume you meant developing world Nope, developed, where people have children despite a culture of analysing everything to death.

by Tade0 4y ago

rubidium 4y ago

The lens of cost / benefit is no way to live, and is a sure road to misery. Scrooge.

lotsofpulp 4y ago
There is a balance. Surely it is reasonable for cost / benefit to cross the mind of a woman, who has to sacrifice at least some portion of her health, and become dependent on others for an unknown amount of time.

balfirevic 4y ago

> Anyone looking at having children (or any other relationship really) through the lens of cost/benefit will arrive at the logical conclusion that it's a huge investment with an uncertain reward, so likely not worth it from that perspective. Many people with children talk about how much more wonderful their life has been since they've had them (including here in HN comments). If you think there is a good chance of that happening to you, that's the "benefit" in the cost/benefit analysis and having children can end up being the logical conclusion.

lotsofpulp 4y ago

>People in the developed world(or adjancent) have children anyway because they allow themselves to not apply such thinking for once. I assume you meant developing world, in which case the reason is probably that many women do not have the opportunity to apply such thinking, due to lacking financial independence and/or access to highly effective contraception such as IUDs.

Tade0 4y ago
> I assume you meant developing world Nope, developed, where people have children despite a culture of analysing everything to death.