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I've struggled with this, probably not to the extent you have, but enough that I recognize my decisions over the last two decades hurt myself mentally, socially

by aimor 4y ago

I've struggled with this, probably not to the extent you have, but enough that I recognize my decisions over the last two decades hurt myself mentally, socially, and career wise. I've tried to quit various things and of course eventually return to old habits (quitting does help though, I encourage everyone to at least try). The only method that really works for me is to have other constructive things I genuinely want to do. It's easier to avoid picking up the phone or getting on the computer (breaking the habit) if I'm thinking about X instead. That can be a hobby, a project, or even better a friend, relative, child. I don't want to sound like I'm saying, "just do this one trick." I know it's not easy and everyone is different. The children's book Frog and Toad Together has a story about willpower called "Cookies". It sums up my experience pretty well. If you do write a book about what works for you, consider making it a children's book: I've gotten more comfort and understanding from those than anything else.

pmg102 4y ago
"Just ONE MORE YouTube video, and then I will stop!"
- dathinab 4y ago
  It's worse with shorts as you don't even think "just one more" as consuming a single short is so "effortless"/"short" that you might not think about them in singularity and instead think "just a few more". Which makes it even harder to set boundaries.
  - ChuckNorris89 4y ago
    The youtube/tictok shorts are a genius form of getting the human brain hooked. It's similar to how eating a piece of cake can make you feel guilty so instead you switch to a bag of M&Ms or other such small sweets thinking it's better for you as "I'll only have a few", and before you know it, you've eaten the whole bag in one go which is worse than the single piece of cake would have been. I've found watching long content is better to keep such addictions in check. When I've finished watching a 2h long movie, I feel also "done" and ready for bed vs the endless stream of streaming shows, youtube videos and other social media shorts can keep you hooked for days on end.

by aimor 4y ago

pmg102 4y ago

"Just ONE MORE YouTube video, and then I will stop!"

dathinab 4y ago
It's worse with shorts as you don't even think "just one more" as consuming a single short is so "effortless"/"short" that you might not think about them in singularity and instead think "just a few more". Which makes it even harder to set boundaries.
- ChuckNorris89 4y ago
  The youtube/tictok shorts are a genius form of getting the human brain hooked. It's similar to how eating a piece of cake can make you feel guilty so instead you switch to a bag of M&Ms or other such small sweets thinking it's better for you as "I'll only have a few", and before you know it, you've eaten the whole bag in one go which is worse than the single piece of cake would have been. I've found watching long content is better to keep such addictions in check. When I've finished watching a 2h long movie, I feel also "done" and ready for bed vs the endless stream of streaming shows, youtube videos and other social media shorts can keep you hooked for days on end.