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Extensions don't work as I can disable them too easily. Even router level restrictions are too easy for me to bypass, it takes all of a few seconds. The only t

by cpsns 4y ago

Extensions don't work as I can disable them too easily. Even router level restrictions are too easy for me to bypass, it takes all of a few seconds. The only thing that has ever provided me mild success was locking my devices in my gun cabinet after a certian time of day. It was easy to get them out, but it took long enough that I could at least reconsider. I was only able to matinain that a week or two before falling into old habbits. Inevitabily I'll have a particularly bad day at work and any progress will go out the window as I look for comfort/a distraction.

theteapot 4y ago
Try planning your time down to the 1/2 hour for the day. If you allocate YT in there then fine. If you don't also fine. But you know exactly how much you've budgeted and what your sacrificing if you break your plan.
all2 4y ago
You have to actually want to quit, though. Increasing the friction for access is a gimmick at best. Right now you're in the self deception phase; you know it's bad and that you should quit, and intellectually you want to quit, but your lizard brain doesn't agree. Look at how folks who successfully quit porn do it. > a week or two before falling into old habits You need to replace old habits with new habits. Also, as a random aside, get your hormones checked. An imbalance of sex hormones can make things like concentration exceedingly difficult. > any progress You've fallen victim of the "fuck it"s. You assume if you fail you might as well not try. A habit is that behavior we return to, and this goes for things we don't habitually do, too. Just because you fuck up doesn't mean you should quit. That nagging voice in your head, the one that says "why even bother, you'll just screw up again" is a liar. You must get up. You must try again. If you listen to that voice you won't even try. Don't believe the inner labeling of "I'm just a failure", if you believe that you'll be right. > comfort / a distraction And there it is. You are dependant on the internet for a dopamine dump.
registeredcorn 4y ago
Perhaps this might work for you: When I was playing World of Warcraft too much, I decided that each time I saw a loading screen, I would do a small amount of pushups or sit ups. Nothing crazy. 5 or 10 or whatever. Less if I was tired, more if I was bored. It was a tiny physical barrier that made me think more cautiously about what it was that I was doing, and kind of "broke the loop" of the mindless activity I was doing. Perhaps you could institute something similar. Each time you open a new tab, you do some sort of physical distraction that gets you out of your chair. If pushups and sit ups aren't your thing, it could be something as simple as "Get up from the computer and walk around the room for 20 seconds". If there are stairs in your house, you could walk up and down them once. If you don't have stairs, maybe you could put some resistance bands by a door in your house. You walk to that door, grab the bands, and do some resistance training for 5 to 10 seconds. The thing that really helped it sink in for me was that it was something that was physically removing me from the computer. Moving away from the computer and then coming back helped to me see just how much time I was spending there. The soreness in my arms and core also helped reinforce how much energy was being devoted to the activity, too. It became a reminder that, "Yes, I have loaded into a lot of different zones today. What have I accomplished? In the game, I suppose I made a few gold or whatever, but for me the person outside of the game, what am I actually accomplishing? The point of the game is to have fun - am I still having fun? I started doing this workout stuff because I felt guilty about what I'm doing. Is that sense of guilt fun?"

by cpsns 4y ago

theteapot 4y ago

Try planning your time down to the 1/2 hour for the day. If you allocate YT in there then fine. If you don't also fine. But you know exactly how much you've budgeted and what your sacrificing if you break your plan.

all2 4y ago

You have to actually want to quit, though. Increasing the friction for access is a gimmick at best. Right now you're in the self deception phase; you know it's bad and that you should quit, and intellectually you want to quit, but your lizard brain doesn't agree. Look at how folks who successfully quit porn do it. > a week or two before falling into old habits You need to replace old habits with new habits. Also, as a random aside, get your hormones checked. An imbalance of sex hormones can make things like concentration exceedingly difficult. > any progress You've fallen victim of the "fuck it"s. You assume if you fail you might as well not try. A habit is that behavior we return to, and this goes for things we don't habitually do, too. Just because you fuck up doesn't mean you should quit. That nagging voice in your head, the one that says "why even bother, you'll just screw up again" is a liar. You must get up. You must try again. If you listen to that voice you won't even try. Don't believe the inner labeling of "I'm just a failure", if you believe that you'll be right. > comfort / a distraction And there it is. You are dependant on the internet for a dopamine dump.

registeredcorn 4y ago

Perhaps this might work for you: When I was playing World of Warcraft too much, I decided that each time I saw a loading screen, I would do a small amount of pushups or sit ups. Nothing crazy. 5 or 10 or whatever. Less if I was tired, more if I was bored. It was a tiny physical barrier that made me think more cautiously about what it was that I was doing, and kind of "broke the loop" of the mindless activity I was doing. Perhaps you could institute something similar. Each time you open a new tab, you do some sort of physical distraction that gets you out of your chair. If pushups and sit ups aren't your thing, it could be something as simple as "Get up from the computer and walk around the room for 20 seconds". If there are stairs in your house, you could walk up and down them once. If you don't have stairs, maybe you could put some resistance bands by a door in your house. You walk to that door, grab the bands, and do some resistance training for 5 to 10 seconds. The thing that really helped it sink in for me was that it was something that was physically removing me from the computer. Moving away from the computer and then coming back helped to me see just how much time I was spending there. The soreness in my arms and core also helped reinforce how much energy was being devoted to the activity, too. It became a reminder that, "Yes, I have loaded into a lot of different zones today. What have I accomplished? In the game, I suppose I made a few gold or whatever, but for me the person outside of the game, what am I actually accomplishing? The point of the game is to have fun - am I still having fun? I started doing this workout stuff because I felt guilty about what I'm doing. Is that sense of guilt fun?"