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The problem is that the guys that send dick pics to complete strangers and women that are just surfing for free meals are still out there. They pollute the ent

by jcims 4y ago

The problem is that the guys that send dick pics to complete strangers and women that are just surfing for free meals are still out there. They pollute the entire experience by having a large number of low-effort interactions, and in the donation model they are just going to be a net sink of resources and good will. I don't think online dating gets any better until someone devises a means to bias against people that aren't acting in good faith. Of course the challenge here is that you're going to be hard pressed to find a strong consensus on what actions do or do not constitute good faith in a dating app.

luckylion 4y ago
I have no experience in running a dating site, and barely any in using them. Are unsolicited dick picks common even for the pay sites? I've assumed that it's mostly an anonymity issue that goes away when you tie it to identity (via payment or otherwise), but then again I've never felt the urge to send anyone dick picks, so I wouldn't put much weight on my assumptions. From what I understand, these days it's not just the dick picks but also love scammers, which aren't low-effort and are welcome by the recipients until the scam begins. These are harder to combat, but shouldn't tying it to identities help? Niche sites probably work better in that regard because e.g. Christian Dating sites have less trouble getting a strong consensus on what's appropriate, wouldn't they?
- jcims 4y ago
  >Are unsolicited dick picks common even for the pay sites? I've assumed that it's mostly an anonymity issue that goes away when you tie it to identity (via payment or otherwise) I don’t know from personal experience but from people I know and the woman I’m dating now, the answer is yes. Common enough, and the guys sending them don’t seem to care that their face and name is plastered all over. I was on a hike with my girlfriend and we bumped into a guy that recognized her. They chatted for a bit and after leaving she said he sent her a dick pic a while back. Scammers are also a major issue, yes. Not sure if tying to identities would help as they presumably could just buy them. Niche sites don’t really help because most of the time you can’t vet if someone is Christian for example. An acquaintance tried finding a date on Christian Mingle and was almost immediately propositioned in ways certainly inappropriate for the site. And you can’t really message for free on that site, so the men in question were paying.

by jcims 4y ago

luckylion 4y ago

I have no experience in running a dating site, and barely any in using them. Are unsolicited dick picks common even for the pay sites? I've assumed that it's mostly an anonymity issue that goes away when you tie it to identity (via payment or otherwise), but then again I've never felt the urge to send anyone dick picks, so I wouldn't put much weight on my assumptions. From what I understand, these days it's not just the dick picks but also love scammers, which aren't low-effort and are welcome by the recipients until the scam begins. These are harder to combat, but shouldn't tying it to identities help? Niche sites probably work better in that regard because e.g. Christian Dating sites have less trouble getting a strong consensus on what's appropriate, wouldn't they?

jcims 4y ago
>Are unsolicited dick picks common even for the pay sites? I've assumed that it's mostly an anonymity issue that goes away when you tie it to identity (via payment or otherwise) I don’t know from personal experience but from people I know and the woman I’m dating now, the answer is yes. Common enough, and the guys sending them don’t seem to care that their face and name is plastered all over. I was on a hike with my girlfriend and we bumped into a guy that recognized her. They chatted for a bit and after leaving she said he sent her a dick pic a while back. Scammers are also a major issue, yes. Not sure if tying to identities would help as they presumably could just buy them. Niche sites don’t really help because most of the time you can’t vet if someone is Christian for example. An acquaintance tried finding a date on Christian Mingle and was almost immediately propositioned in ways certainly inappropriate for the site. And you can’t really message for free on that site, so the men in question were paying.