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I have "1-2" children in part because the costs have skyrocketed and also because the nanny state says I go to jail if my kid say walks alone to the playground,
by notch656c 4y ago
I have "1-2" children in part because the costs have skyrocketed and also because the nanny state says I go to jail if my kid say walks alone to the playground, so there is no time to micromanage more than 1 or 2 people to the extent they can't even walk without supervision. If you read about "child abuse stories" where some evil villan allowed the kids to play outside it is almost invariably someone with 3+ children (and usually a single mom) because with that many kids it's impractical and possibly even impossible to follow the every wish and demand of every asshole with a cellphone in their hand and ready to call CPS at the drop of a hat.
- nindalf 4y agoYou're kinda proving my point here. People will always focus on what they don't have, rather than what they do. You will likely never experience losing a child, something that was part of the human experience for all time, until the last 50 or so years. And yet, rather than enjoy that enormous privilege, you complain about the cost of child care. I don't blame you. You're acting exactly how most people act in most situations. Dwelling on what they don't have and getting angry about it. Even if you won the lottery and could afford to have 20 kids and a nanny for each one you still wouldn't be happy. Not because you're bad, but because that's how brain chemistry works. The hundreds of millions from the lottery starts to feel "normal" and you'd be complaining about something else. Like your yacht not being big enough or whatever. Ultimately the thing that is keeping you unhappy isn't the childcare cost or the spectre of CPS. You're unhappy because it's inherent in the human condition.
- notch656c 4y agoYou've shifted to why one is or isn't happy rather than factors leading to number of children.