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A reputable dating website can most likely not be for-profit. "Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating", written by a co-founder of OkCupid: https://www.gw

A reputable dating website can most likely not be for-profit. "Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating", written by a co-founder of OkCupid: https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/whyyoushouldneverpayforonlinedating.html https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/whyyoushouldne... before they, too, sold out to the Match Group monopoly. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group#Dating_services_owned https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group#Dating_services_ow... The world needs a site with the moral integrity and user-only focus the likes of lichess.org

thomasahle 4y ago
> The world needs a site with the moral integrity and user-only focus the likes of lichess.org A low-costs + donations model ala lichess would actually be quite interesting for a data site. Maybe you could even convince "alumni" to donate, in appreciation of their successful relationship. The longer it lasted, the more donations.
- yurodivuie 4y ago
  A lot of people would pay to get the history of their exchanges on a dating site. You don't realize when you close your account that you're also losing all the history of how you met - at the time it's more of a celebration of "job done" and demonstration of commitment. I understand why it all vanishes (the privacy concerns are non-trivial, storage isn't free), but it would be worth almost any price when the 5/10/20 year anniversaries roll around.
  - gnicholas 4y ago
    After our third date, my now-wife and I decided to delete our online dating accounts. I had the foresight to screenshot/download her profile and our messages, but I forgot to capture my own. Oh well!
999900000999 4y ago
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- scythe 4y ago
  >If memory serves that same co-founder wrote multiple blog posts where he pointed out various races just don't do well online. Maybe just maybe he doesn't want certain people using his app? The OkCupid guy posted data showing that Asian men and Black people in general got worse responses on OkCupid. All indications are that the data was fairly collected. He described this as an unfortunate bias present in the population. It's extremely unfair and counterproductive to accuse him of encouraging racism when he was in fact calling it out.
- tsss 4y ago
  He wrote it because it is true and censoring the truth will not improve the life of anyone.
jimt1234 4y ago
The problem with a free dating site is that it'll quickly become polluted with fake accounts - scammers and people promoting their OnlyFans page. At least that's my experience.
- qup 4y ago
  That would be a great problem to focus on if you were trying to improve the experience for users.
  - zarzavat 4y ago
    The way to improve the experience is precisely to charge money. Everybody benefits: users are more serious because they have invested money into their own success, the website has a source of funding to keep the doors open, and fake accounts are less frequent because they cost money to run.

thomasahle 4y ago

> The world needs a site with the moral integrity and user-only focus the likes of lichess.org A low-costs + donations model ala lichess would actually be quite interesting for a data site. Maybe you could even convince "alumni" to donate, in appreciation of their successful relationship. The longer it lasted, the more donations.

yurodivuie 4y ago
A lot of people would pay to get the history of their exchanges on a dating site. You don't realize when you close your account that you're also losing all the history of how you met - at the time it's more of a celebration of "job done" and demonstration of commitment. I understand why it all vanishes (the privacy concerns are non-trivial, storage isn't free), but it would be worth almost any price when the 5/10/20 year anniversaries roll around.
- gnicholas 4y ago
  After our third date, my now-wife and I decided to delete our online dating accounts. I had the foresight to screenshot/download her profile and our messages, but I forgot to capture my own. Oh well!

999900000999 4y ago

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scythe 4y ago
>If memory serves that same co-founder wrote multiple blog posts where he pointed out various races just don't do well online. Maybe just maybe he doesn't want certain people using his app? The OkCupid guy posted data showing that Asian men and Black people in general got worse responses on OkCupid. All indications are that the data was fairly collected. He described this as an unfortunate bias present in the population. It's extremely unfair and counterproductive to accuse him of encouraging racism when he was in fact calling it out.
tsss 4y ago
He wrote it because it is true and censoring the truth will not improve the life of anyone.

jimt1234 4y ago

The problem with a free dating site is that it'll quickly become polluted with fake accounts - scammers and people promoting their OnlyFans page. At least that's my experience.

qup 4y ago
That would be a great problem to focus on if you were trying to improve the experience for users.
- zarzavat 4y ago
  The way to improve the experience is precisely to charge money. Everybody benefits: users are more serious because they have invested money into their own success, the website has a source of funding to keep the doors open, and fake accounts are less frequent because they cost money to run.