> I feel that the only way I can advance my current position is by getting other job offers, but I don't want to be that guy. If you're not prepared to leave,

> I feel that the only way I can advance my current position is by getting other job offers, but I don't want to be that guy. If you're not prepared to leave, why should your employer pay you any more given that you've demonstrated by your actions that your existing salary is enough to keep you working there? Actions speak louder than words, which is unfortunately why being "that guy" is the most effective way to get that higher salary you believe that you're entitled to.