Not a physicist at all either; but on a per particle basis, I know gravity is by far the weakest of the fundamental forces. However, unlike the others, it doesn

Not a physicist at all either; but on a per particle basis, I know gravity is by far the weakest of the fundamental forces. However, unlike the others, it doesn't have spin/charge/polarity that results in their vectors repelling each other. As such, black holes form when the large scale weak gravitational forces combine into a greater force than the strong short scale repelling forces exerted by the others (and especially so when nuclear fusion is involved). In a hot primordial plasma, the particles are by definition extremely energetic; pushing each other in all directions with far more vigor than the extent to which gravity attracts them. Hence being a big bang rather than a big crunch, I suppose.