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I have had 1 kid and am having serious cold feet about having another even though I initially wanted to. Not only the sleepless nights, but thinking of all the
by llampx 4y ago
I have had 1 kid and am having serious cold feet about having another even though I initially wanted to. Not only the sleepless nights, but thinking of all the vacations and iPhones I would have to buy, where almost every cost would be 2x just by default. Then comes the crowning glory or coup de grace, paying the college education.
Cheaper by the dozen? Not by half!
- ishjoh 4y agoI have 3 and I remember the process you're going through. > thinking of all the vacations and iPhones I would have to buy You don't have to buy this stuff. I grew up lower middle class, the only vacation we took until I was 15 was driving 8h to stay with my grandma. I never had a gameboy or lots of other things. My childhood was still great. Looking back maybe I could have had those things if my brother didn't exist, but I'm much happier that my brother exists because 10/10 I had way more fun with him than having a gameboy or exotic vacations, even though we didn't always get along. College education is expensive, but it's possible to not spend a fortune using community college and transferring. Hopefully there will be even more low cost options in the future. If you can have a roof over their head, feed them, have a stable home life and bring a positive attitude to every day then the rest doesn't matter.
- llampx 4y agoThanks for the chat. I have seen enough families where the siblings don't get along, although I do get along with mine and have many fond memories together. I have to balance the potential for good memories as a bigger family with wanting to have the best for the kid(s) we do have.