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You advise to be human and kind but automatically categorize "difficult people" as being on the spectrum? And no worry, some engineers don't need to be on the s

You advise to be human and kind but automatically categorize "difficult people" as being on the spectrum? And no worry, some engineers don't need to be on the spectrum to be difficult. Conversely, people on the spectrum are not inherently difficult either. But I do agree: communication is key. Craftpeople can have trouble taking the team or the business priorities into account. Being the manager, you have to take the other parties' side and talk about the non-technical problems: time to implement (= money and unavailability of the engineer), additional complexity, fragility, making changes more difficult... Convincing is always better but if you argued to no avail, you have to impose your decision – being careful not to be the asshat in the mix.

ParetoOptimal 4y ago
> You advise to be human and kind but automatically categorize "difficult people" as being on the spectrum? Perhaps like me they reject the people referred to are "difficult people" but believe the behaviors listed refer to people on the spectrum or otherwise neurodivergent.
- klaushougesen1 4y ago
  exactly - all people are normal, all people are difficult, no person is normal, some people are more often challenged that others. Judging for normalcy is a fallacy
klaushougesen1 4y ago
The point is that "people"'s behaviour is on a bell curve and none of us are "normal" -> some lie at the edges when they are pressured but are fine when they are relaxed. -> Some gravitate towards the center - but may slide to either side depending on specific circumstances and situations. The true fallacy is to think there is anything "normal" at all! -> rather we have "permissable / accepted" behaviour and "impermissible / unaccepted" and a very very large grayzone in between. And educating yourself on the edges of that bell curve gives you the tools and acceptance needed to better deal with most of the stuff happening on that curve.

ParetoOptimal 4y ago

> You advise to be human and kind but automatically categorize "difficult people" as being on the spectrum? Perhaps like me they reject the people referred to are "difficult people" but believe the behaviors listed refer to people on the spectrum or otherwise neurodivergent.

klaushougesen1 4y ago
exactly - all people are normal, all people are difficult, no person is normal, some people are more often challenged that others. Judging for normalcy is a fallacy

klaushougesen1 4y ago

The point is that "people"'s behaviour is on a bell curve and none of us are "normal" -> some lie at the edges when they are pressured but are fine when they are relaxed. -> Some gravitate towards the center - but may slide to either side depending on specific circumstances and situations. The true fallacy is to think there is anything "normal" at all! -> rather we have "permissable / accepted" behaviour and "impermissible / unaccepted" and a very very large grayzone in between. And educating yourself on the edges of that bell curve gives you the tools and acceptance needed to better deal with most of the stuff happening on that curve.