I object to this version because in my view "Jessica" is and always was a man. I understand that not everyone sees it this way, but that's the way I see it. I

I object to this version because in my view "Jessica" is and always was a man. I understand that not everyone sees it this way, but that's the way I see it. I view biological sex to be a real fact about the world and it is unambiguously binary. Also, I take the words of the Bible seriously: "Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.” (KJV) During the time I knew him, Steve was married to a woman and focused on becoming a father. He himself would have described himself as a man. Finally, the fact that Steve was "on the spectrum" is central to understanding him fully, and the fact that he transitioned is telling because a surprisingly large percentage of men who transition in midlife are extremely intelligent and are on the spectrum. I believe that including the details about his personality and his transition allows a fuller picture of the man to snap more coherently into place, while also shedding light on the current cultural moment. Also, I simply don't agree that using pronouns that align with a person's biological sex is analogous to using the n-word, and I'm sorry that you feel that way. I mean no offense to anyone (although I won't go out of my way to stop people from taking offense where none is intended) and there is no engineer I have ever held in higher regard than Steve/Jessica. I saw him pull off absolutely mind-bending feats of engineering and if I had to bet then I would say that every time he put his foot down and died on a hill over an engineering disagreement that he was absolutely in the right from a technical point of view.