What you've described is what most non-binary, trans, and many queer folks believe. (And many allies as well.) The idea that there are "only two" genders is, i

What you've described is what most non-binary, trans, and many queer folks believe. (And many allies as well.) The idea that there are "only two" genders is, imo, a bit of a 20th century lens, and I expect we'll move to disentangle gender from what anatomy do you have. I agree that asking for gender is fraught. I am non-binary, and I constantly have to either lie or just choose "Not sharing". The best systems just take a string and leave it at that.