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There are 2 main things that make us not happy: 1. not accepting the past. 2. fear of the future. One can't change the past, so being angry, having grief, or wh

There are 2 main things that make us not happy: 1. not accepting the past. 2. fear of the future. One can't change the past, so being angry, having grief, or whatever emotion one has where one is not accepting of the past feeds negative energy; just accept what has happened in the past because it can't be changed. FYI - think of life as a movies that one has a unique view of; nobody else has the view you do, appreciate it and be greatful for the experience. Also, one can't predict/control the future, so spending time being fearful of it also feeds negative energy. Accept that the future will bring exactly what one needs to grow. Be happy by accepting the past and not worrying about the future.

VieEnCode 4y ago
"Accept that the future will bring exactly what one needs to grow." Sorry, but this is panglossian nonsense.
- anonymousnotme 4y ago
  Think of being optimistic or (positive) as a placebo that one has a positive view about. Is it realistic that one can be happy and have a negative view about the future? If one has a positive view; wouldn't it follow that one is more likely to be happy. Also, if something most people would be considered bad happens and one thinks that it is helping them grow, one is more likele to accept what just happend. If one does not accept the past, there is no way to be happy. So, think of it as prepping to accepting a past that might be painful or most would consider bad.
algoatecorn 4y ago
That's an interesting take. In my case, I'm proud of my past and have no regrets. I'm also incredibly excited for the future. But I'm displeased with the present and have to constantly remind myself of the "means to an end". Currently stuck in a field that I don't enjoy, but I'm another year away from completing my master's in the field I would rather be in. But, I gotta pay the bills
id 4y ago
When I have been unhappy in my life, it was never about the past or future. It always had to do with the present.

VieEnCode 4y ago

"Accept that the future will bring exactly what one needs to grow." Sorry, but this is panglossian nonsense.

anonymousnotme 4y ago
Think of being optimistic or (positive) as a placebo that one has a positive view about. Is it realistic that one can be happy and have a negative view about the future? If one has a positive view; wouldn't it follow that one is more likely to be happy. Also, if something most people would be considered bad happens and one thinks that it is helping them grow, one is more likele to accept what just happend. If one does not accept the past, there is no way to be happy. So, think of it as prepping to accepting a past that might be painful or most would consider bad.

algoatecorn 4y ago

That's an interesting take. In my case, I'm proud of my past and have no regrets. I'm also incredibly excited for the future. But I'm displeased with the present and have to constantly remind myself of the "means to an end". Currently stuck in a field that I don't enjoy, but I'm another year away from completing my master's in the field I would rather be in. But, I gotta pay the bills

id 4y ago

When I have been unhappy in my life, it was never about the past or future. It always had to do with the present.