I think the moral of this story is to spend time thinking about what you _actually_ want and do _that_. I agree with Steve's advice here. If you don't want to

I think the moral of this story is to spend time thinking about what you _actually_ want and do _that_. I agree with Steve's advice here. If you don't want to be in New York/SF/Wherever... don't. But accept choices have pros and cons. E.g. I spent 7ish years in Los Angeles. Now I live in Asia. I'm having a great time here, but it _does_ mean there are certain California opportunities I have to say no to, and that's fine! In this example, if the founder _really_ doesn't want to be in New York, make the decision one way or the other now, and commit to it. Trying to do multiple things at once will never be as efficient as focusing on one thing. You'll always be beaten by the person/team who has laser focus. You can have anything you want in life, just not all at the same time. A great example I see of people trying to have everything at the same time is buying a house. They'll want a house they love that's ALSO an excellent investment. Usually what they end up with is a house they kinda like that's a mediocre investment.