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> We should stop telling children that they’re the “experts on their own lives” and repudiate a static model of selfhood as a fait accompli at birth. Sure, some

by caned 4y ago

> We should stop telling children that they’re the “experts on their own lives” and repudiate a static model of selfhood as a fait accompli at birth. Sure, some inborn essence is particular to every person, but it’s a spark; it’s not a fire. We could stand to return to the language of forming character and making a life for yourself, while urging teachers to exercise the guidance they’ve been encouraged to forsake. This resonates. I feel that I was fortunate enough to be raised during a time and in an environment where the adult world was separate, mysterious and alluring from my young perspective. My parents, like many of their peers, had beliefs and values that they held up and lived by. They didn't stoop down to coddle us, and they gave us room to grow. Sure, kids didn't have as much of a voice in such a world - and that wasn't always a good thing. But the polar opposite that we see today just seems absurd. The mature world was what my young self yearned to be a part of, and it was pretty clear that membership was something to _work_ towards, not to be bestowed.

lordfrito 4y ago
> I was fortunate enough to be raised during a time and in an environment where the adult world was separate, mysterious and alluring from my young perspective. > They didn't stoop down to coddle us, and they gave us room to grow. Parents like this still exist, I know, I was one of them. The #1 challenge these parents face is that their teachings are being drowned out by the 24/7/365 barrage of information streaming from everywhere to their children's phones and brains. Peer pressure alone is bad enough. What's worse is the direct/efficient line from Political Agenda -> $$$ -> Internet -> My Kids Brain. Kids have always thought of their parents as out of touch, all their friends agree. When the "trusted" apps and media streams hammer reinforcement of these beliefs as well, it makes it really hard for your child to sort out fact from fiction. It's incredibly frustrating for the parents that are trying. I'm not sure how we solve this problem for parents at scale.

by caned 4y ago

lordfrito 4y ago

> I was fortunate enough to be raised during a time and in an environment where the adult world was separate, mysterious and alluring from my young perspective. > They didn't stoop down to coddle us, and they gave us room to grow. Parents like this still exist, I know, I was one of them. The #1 challenge these parents face is that their teachings are being drowned out by the 24/7/365 barrage of information streaming from everywhere to their children's phones and brains. Peer pressure alone is bad enough. What's worse is the direct/efficient line from Political Agenda -> $$$ -> Internet -> My Kids Brain. Kids have always thought of their parents as out of touch, all their friends agree. When the "trusted" apps and media streams hammer reinforcement of these beliefs as well, it makes it really hard for your child to sort out fact from fiction. It's incredibly frustrating for the parents that are trying. I'm not sure how we solve this problem for parents at scale.