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Could you elaborate a little on why she can’t handle living in the US?

Firmwarrior 4y ago
ah, she just doesn't like the way things work here, and she's scared to learn to drive The service in the SF Bay Area is really amazingly dismal. It's embarrassing every day to be an American living here. People at restaurants, stores, etc are all angry and stressed out. I'm hoping I can convince her to move somewhere else in the USA with me, since it'll be a lot easier to find some remote work in my same time zone
- midoridensha 4y ago
  Somewhere else will still require driving for every little thing, because that's how America is. If you want to live a car-free lifestyle, America is simply impossible outside of Manhattan, NYC, but it's commonplace in any larger Japanese city. And Americans are all angry and stressed out everywhere else in America too. It became a really miserable place to live in my experience during the pandemic, so I was really glad to get out and move to Japan where everything is civilized and people know how to act in public.
  - Firmwarrior 4y ago
    Well, we've had pretty decent luck with Utah, Florida, Texas, and other parts of the US lately when traveling. The service isn't on par with Japan, but they're nice at least. I'm hoping I can convince her to learn to drive.. Although if we move near my friends and family, I could just have one of my minions drive her around every day Hopefully I can work out a way to earn $8k a month or so doing something online. Then I could maintain residences in Tokyo and the non-HCOL part of the USA, and pop back and forth occasionally.
    - midoridensha 4y ago
      >Although if we move near my friends and family, I could just have one of my minions drive her around every day Is she some kind of slave or something? Being in a place where you can't get around by yourself is not much fun, and doesn't feel very free. I can totally see why she wants to come back to Japan; you don't have to live that way here, and can easily get around almost anywhere (except the countryside) without a car. It's a totally different way of life, but it's something that most Americans I've found simply cannot comprehend at all. They simply cannot imagine life without a car (or a gun). >Hopefully I can work out a way to earn $8k a month or so doing something online. Good luck with that; most WfH jobs won't allow working internationally because of the taxation issues, though I suppose you could lie and just use your US address, though the company might notice that you always work through the middle of the night and have an issue, but I really don't know. I know digital nomads do exist; it's not much of a thing in Japan because there's no working visa that allows this, but a spousal visa probably would.
      - Firmwarrior 4y ago
        Yeah, it sucks man. I tried explaining this to her, but she's still scared to drive and spending most of her time alone At this point I'm basically a nampa weirdo, hitting on all the Japanese housewives I come across to get their LINE info and try to arrange playdates for the wife

ah, she just doesn't like the way things work here, and she's scared to learn to drive The service in the SF Bay Area is really amazingly dismal. It's embarrassing every day to be an American living here. People at restaurants, stores, etc are all angry and stressed out. I'm hoping I can convince her to move somewhere else in the USA with me, since it'll be a lot easier to find some remote work in my same time zone

midoridensha 4y ago
Somewhere else will still require driving for every little thing, because that's how America is. If you want to live a car-free lifestyle, America is simply impossible outside of Manhattan, NYC, but it's commonplace in any larger Japanese city. And Americans are all angry and stressed out everywhere else in America too. It became a really miserable place to live in my experience during the pandemic, so I was really glad to get out and move to Japan where everything is civilized and people know how to act in public.
- Firmwarrior 4y ago
  Well, we've had pretty decent luck with Utah, Florida, Texas, and other parts of the US lately when traveling. The service isn't on par with Japan, but they're nice at least. I'm hoping I can convince her to learn to drive.. Although if we move near my friends and family, I could just have one of my minions drive her around every day Hopefully I can work out a way to earn $8k a month or so doing something online. Then I could maintain residences in Tokyo and the non-HCOL part of the USA, and pop back and forth occasionally.
  - midoridensha 4y ago
    >Although if we move near my friends and family, I could just have one of my minions drive her around every day Is she some kind of slave or something? Being in a place where you can't get around by yourself is not much fun, and doesn't feel very free. I can totally see why she wants to come back to Japan; you don't have to live that way here, and can easily get around almost anywhere (except the countryside) without a car. It's a totally different way of life, but it's something that most Americans I've found simply cannot comprehend at all. They simply cannot imagine life without a car (or a gun). >Hopefully I can work out a way to earn $8k a month or so doing something online. Good luck with that; most WfH jobs won't allow working internationally because of the taxation issues, though I suppose you could lie and just use your US address, though the company might notice that you always work through the middle of the night and have an issue, but I really don't know. I know digital nomads do exist; it's not much of a thing in Japan because there's no working visa that allows this, but a spousal visa probably would.
    - Firmwarrior 4y ago
      Yeah, it sucks man. I tried explaining this to her, but she's still scared to drive and spending most of her time alone At this point I'm basically a nampa weirdo, hitting on all the Japanese housewives I come across to get their LINE info and try to arrange playdates for the wife