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This is a dangerous idea to put in the head of impressionable young tech workers during a difficult economic time. First of all, it's ridiculous to equate Meta

This is a dangerous idea to put in the head of impressionable young tech workers during a difficult economic time. First of all, it's ridiculous to equate Meta with all companies. The mistake to watch out for is treating a company as a human being, and expecting the relationship to have similar social dynamics to that between natural persons. Companies are not humans, and the bigger they get the more apparent the truth becomes. However, in negotiating a job offer, you will also be dealing with humans, and your reputation very much matters on what those humans think as a result of your actions. Ghosting Meta (or any other mega corp) is not a big deal, they will forget you in 30 seconds. On the other hand, if you do this to a smaller company, especially one that is very resource constrained, they may be putting a lot of eggs in your basket, and backing out last minute could materially hurt them in a way that they won't soon forget. This could very much matter down the line, because even if the company goes out of business, the leaders there will likely still be around and may pop up on hiring committees/reference checks you least expect.

noisy_boy 4y ago
> if you do this to a smaller company Or if you are in a smaller market - people talk and word spreads faster there. This may not matter to those who are not in it for the long run but if you are, be careful.
TomSwirly 4y ago
No one is talking about ghosting anyone. The question is this: if you have excepted a job offer, and you get another job offer you prefer, is it unethical to back out of the original job offer? The answer is no. But clearly you have to contact the original employer, explain the situation, and apologize. Again, no one, not one person, is suggesting ghosting.
- dasil003 4y ago
  That's fair criticism, my choice of verb in that sentence was poor. The reason I used it was to emphasize that with Meta they honestly be very unlikely to be offended. That said though, one should always behave professionally regardless of who the counterparty is.

noisy_boy 4y ago

> if you do this to a smaller company Or if you are in a smaller market - people talk and word spreads faster there. This may not matter to those who are not in it for the long run but if you are, be careful.

TomSwirly 4y ago

No one is talking about ghosting anyone. The question is this: if you have excepted a job offer, and you get another job offer you prefer, is it unethical to back out of the original job offer? The answer is no. But clearly you have to contact the original employer, explain the situation, and apologize. Again, no one, not one person, is suggesting ghosting.

dasil003 4y ago
That's fair criticism, my choice of verb in that sentence was poor. The reason I used it was to emphasize that with Meta they honestly be very unlikely to be offended. That said though, one should always behave professionally regardless of who the counterparty is.