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My older brother habitually turns his phone off when he goes to bed. Not even legitimate calls from family could make it through. So when I tried to contact h

My older brother habitually turns his phone off when he goes to bed. Not even legitimate calls from family could make it through. So when I tried to contact him urgently about our younger brother, I got nothing but voicemail. I left a voicemail, and he got back to me in the morning. My younger brother had since died. He'd have died anyway. Sure. But still, I have to tell you that my older brother was really upset knowing he had missed that call by his own choice.

csdvrx 4y ago
From the parent poster: > > "I think you're missing the case where the hospital is trying to let you know about the state of your loved one." But how is any information about the state of someone will impact the course of actions for that person? > He'd have died anyway Exactly this. Maybe it's stoicism, but personally I don't know how I would be upset about actions I couldn't change. If anything, the voicemail saved your brother a good night of sleep, that would have been otherwise wasted doing... what exactly? Pre mourning? Creating some familial unity by suffering together? Scaring him emotionally by having to hold the hand of a dying person? I just don't understand all this.