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> In my personal life experience with abusive people, I find it makes me want to be more in favor of unconditional help for others, not less. This has nothing
by simplotek 4y ago
> In my personal life experience with abusive people, I find it makes me want to be more in favor of unconditional help for others, not less.
This has nothing to do with conditional or conditional help, or help at all. You feel compelled to fool yourself into believing you're not being exploited, but you're the only one believing that nonsense. You're dealt with like the mark in a con, and not exercising any common sense does not make you more pious, just an easy mark without self esteem.
The people that leech off of you are not the ones who need it the most. They are just the ones that don't mind profiting from less than ethical and moral means.
- asveikau 4y agoEnjoy your paranoid life. Imo the ideas you're writing indicate very high levels of stress, which can lead to unfounded mistrust of others and general misanthropy. If you could see it more broadly you might see that the people "taking advantage" are also suffering, and have more in common with you than you appreciate. It's ok to be yourself around those people, to let down your proverbial guard, while having appropriate boundaries and not being exploited ... But over focus on who exploits and who is exploited blah blah blah ... All of that is quite toxic. It can make you just as miserable as the people you're accusing, if not more. And if you see every interaction this way, it's only a matter of time before you start seeing potential exploitation where it doesn't exist.