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I'd honestly hope that person wouldn't make it seem like it is a loan. I'd hope they just said "hey, here's money." Seems like a major jerk move to structure t
by roflyear 4y ago
I'd honestly hope that person wouldn't make it seem like it is a loan. I'd hope they just said "hey, here's money."
Seems like a major jerk move to structure the "loan" in a way where you remove these people from your life.
- Consultant32452 4y agoIt's an efficient and polite way of determining if your "loan" actually helps them, or they are going to be a bottomless pit of misery and $ requests. If the loan helps them, they will be able to pay it back and all will be well. If it doesn't help them, then there's likely no value in giving them more money. If you want be charitable, there's certainly more efficient ways than giving free money to random people who ask you.
- roflyear 4y agoIt's super inefficient, and it's absolutely not polite.
- Consultant32452 4y agoYou loan someone money not expecting them to pay it back, you never bring it up or bother them, they decide to leave your life forever. You are the bad guy. Only on the internet.
- roflyear 4y agoNo... if you have some messed up system that involved that process to filter people from your life, you're the bad guy, yeah. Not just on the internet, either.
- Consultant32452 4y agoIt's not a "system" that anyone designed. It's an emergent property of helping people who ask for it.
- fragmede 4y agoSorry to say, but not everyone you meet is worth keeping in your life. This is just one way of filtering the people who aren't worth keeping, out. Those that are worth keeping, and really are just temporarily down on their luck, will repay the loan and continue interacting with this person, none the wiser.
- roflyear 4y agoWell, certainly not everyone who askes me to borrow a couple hundred dollars fits into that category....