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That is so surreal to me. I had to loan money from friends for real emergencies and always made sure they get paid - often more than they gave. How can one not
by zahrc 4y ago
That is so surreal to me. I had to loan money from friends for real emergencies and always made sure they get paid - often more than they gave. How can one not be guilt-ridden until their deathbed?
- serioussecurity 4y agoHeavy drinking. Usually they're choosing between a set of bad options.
- danuker 4y agoThere exist sociopaths and utility monsters.
- ethbr0 4y agoOr, at the most charitable, people in really bad places (either by choices or bad luck)... and are doing what they need to get by. And honestly, habitually soliciting money from friends shares a lot of similarities with using venture capital -- the reasoning that it's better to explode with someone else's money than your own.
- danuker 4y agoTo be fair, the stock market has been invented to spread risk. Better to own 10% of 10 boat expeditions than only one whole boat.
- johnchristopher 4y ago> How can one not be guilt-ridden until their deathbed? Well, some most likely are.
- SuoDuanDao 4y agoThe majority of requests for money come from a minority of people with sad stories. You are clearly a member of the majority.
- okasaki 4y agoIf you're struggling, and get $1000 from someone who made $100M on crypto, would you be in a hurry to pay them back, or even care at all?
- roflyear 4y agoI'd honestly hope that person wouldn't make it seem like it is a loan. I'd hope they just said "hey, here's money." Seems like a major jerk move to structure the "loan" in a way where you remove these people from your life.
- Consultant32452 4y agoIt's an efficient and polite way of determining if your "loan" actually helps them, or they are going to be a bottomless pit of misery and $ requests. If the loan helps them, they will be able to pay it back and all will be well. If it doesn't help them, then there's likely no value in giving them more money. If you want be charitable, there's certainly more efficient ways than giving free money to random people who ask you.
- roflyear 4y agoIt's super inefficient, and it's absolutely not polite.
- Consultant32452 4y agoYou loan someone money not expecting them to pay it back, you never bring it up or bother them, they decide to leave your life forever. You are the bad guy. Only on the internet.
- roflyear 4y agoNo... if you have some messed up system that involved that process to filter people from your life, you're the bad guy, yeah. Not just on the internet, either.
- SuoDuanDao 4y agoThe majority of requests for money come from a minority of people with sad stories. You are clearly a member of the majority of people with sad stories. I think the minority would call you a victim of 'temporarily embarrassed millionaire syndrome'.
- Juliate 4y agoIt's peculiar. Some people sometimes kind of resent those that saw their weakness, responded to it and helped them. Misplaced pride? Or lack of self-awareness and acceptation of their shortcomings? Guilt that builds upon itself (where just talking about it first could ... just clear things up)? Or they don't know/understand/weren't explained how to repay it (even if that's as simple as just paying back, or only saying "thanks"). Social rituals definitely help here.