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> Do you think it’s possible for people to learn and change? Yes, if they get actionable advice, which they can understand and follow, which "just be yourself"
by 4ad 4y ago
> Do you think it’s possible for people to learn and change?
Yes, if they get actionable advice, which they can understand and follow, which "just be yourself" is not an example of. It's not just useless advice, it's wrong, showing a fundamental misunderstanding by the advisor of what the problem with the advised person is. It's not only frustrating, but it causes the advised person to dismiss any further advice from the advisor.
- simonh 4y agoI think by itself you're right, it's ambiguous and dismissive. I think the basic idea behind it, trying to be more relaxed and comfortable in that situation to express more of your genuine personality than a special behaviour you adopt for dating situations, is on the right track though.