I am currently in the phase where I am sitting on my computer in my free time to learn things, both to advance my career (software developer) and my own hobby (

I am currently in the phase where I am sitting on my computer in my free time to learn things, both to advance my career (software developer) and my own hobby (also programming but my hobby is a bit different than my day job, so I learn different things), at the cost of other "fun" things that I sometimes feel like I would rather be doing I am also looking for a boyfriend for exactly the same reasons you described; I want to find someone I can give my love to and do activities that I enjoy with, especially ones that have nothing to do with my career or programming hobby; hiking, going to metal concerts, etc. But as you said, it's easier said than done; haven't had any luck yet Tbh, I'm just looking for friends in general, not just a boyfriend because I have barely anyone I can call a friend in the city I live in