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If a woman agrees to do this with you on a second date, she must already have a strong interest, otherwise she would find it too overbearing. Anyway, I'm happy

If a woman agrees to do this with you on a second date, she must already have a strong interest, otherwise she would find it too overbearing. Anyway, I'm happy for you.

Sakos 4y ago
That's the point, no? It filters out extremely early.
supersparrow 4y ago
Hmm, not sure I agree with that. Some questions may be a bit heavy for a first date and some are perfectly reasonable. You would need to use your judgement and see what feels acceptable for the situation :)
- corobo 4y ago
  The question content isn't the issue, the interrogation style of date would be the issue. I can't imagine anything more boring personally! Am I at least allowed to read my book while we go through the list? Having said that I'd also walk away from a job interview that was in a similar style, so maybe it works on a next level meta. We are incompatible because you brought a quiz to a date and I found it boring, the quiz was a success.
  - supersparrow 4y ago
    It’ll only feel interrogation style if you make it that way. There are more casual ways of dealing with these things that are fun and not too serious!
  - pandemicsoul 4y ago
    It's not intended as some kind of compatibility survey. The way it's supposed to work is both people answer all the questions – as opposed to one person asking the other personal all of them. You're also supposed to stare into each other's eyes during the whole thing. The point is to create a sense of shared vulnerability by both "forcing" both people to talk about things they wouldn't normally talk about and also by "forcing" intimacy into the space.
    - corobo 4y ago
      I understood the article :P I'm saying the act of doing that would be (for me) boring, dull, unimaginative, lame, a bad date, Yawnfest 2023, the next stop is Snore Central where this train terminates. As the parent of the comment I responded to says - if you and your date are willing to do this together you're already pretty compatible. I realise the quiz questions are not to do that. I get it, promise! The reason you are on a date in the first place is to confirm compatibility, that's why I referenced and continue to reference compatibility. On the meta it only really works to rule out incompatibility. In reality you could probably just skip the activity as soon as you both agree to do it. You'll find out the answers during the relationship, you don't need to speedrun it. There's also an aspect of "is this real?" - if we want to just force a bond let's go to a theme park and dump adrenaline with each other for 6 hours. Way more fun.

If a woman agrees to do this with you on a second date, she must already have a strong interest, otherwise she would find it too overbearing. Anyway, I'm happy for you.

Sakos 4y ago

That's the point, no? It filters out extremely early.

supersparrow 4y ago

Hmm, not sure I agree with that. Some questions may be a bit heavy for a first date and some are perfectly reasonable. You would need to use your judgement and see what feels acceptable for the situation :)

corobo 4y ago
The question content isn't the issue, the interrogation style of date would be the issue. I can't imagine anything more boring personally! Am I at least allowed to read my book while we go through the list? Having said that I'd also walk away from a job interview that was in a similar style, so maybe it works on a next level meta. We are incompatible because you brought a quiz to a date and I found it boring, the quiz was a success.
- supersparrow 4y ago
  It’ll only feel interrogation style if you make it that way. There are more casual ways of dealing with these things that are fun and not too serious!
- pandemicsoul 4y ago
  It's not intended as some kind of compatibility survey. The way it's supposed to work is both people answer all the questions – as opposed to one person asking the other personal all of them. You're also supposed to stare into each other's eyes during the whole thing. The point is to create a sense of shared vulnerability by both "forcing" both people to talk about things they wouldn't normally talk about and also by "forcing" intimacy into the space.
  - corobo 4y ago
    I understood the article :P I'm saying the act of doing that would be (for me) boring, dull, unimaginative, lame, a bad date, Yawnfest 2023, the next stop is Snore Central where this train terminates. As the parent of the comment I responded to says - if you and your date are willing to do this together you're already pretty compatible. I realise the quiz questions are not to do that. I get it, promise! The reason you are on a date in the first place is to confirm compatibility, that's why I referenced and continue to reference compatibility. On the meta it only really works to rule out incompatibility. In reality you could probably just skip the activity as soon as you both agree to do it. You'll find out the answers during the relationship, you don't need to speedrun it. There's also an aspect of "is this real?" - if we want to just force a bond let's go to a theme park and dump adrenaline with each other for 6 hours. Way more fun.