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Anger. Get angry. A lot of trauma is internalization. You blame yourself. It's made to be your fault. You're told you're a terrible person. Get mad about what

Anger. Get angry. A lot of trauma is internalization. You blame yourself. It's made to be your fault. You're told you're a terrible person. Get mad about what happened to you. Anger is your tool for being pissed off and asserting your boundaries. https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/05/31/the-importance-of-anger-and-rage/ https://cptsdfoundation.org/2022/05/31/the-importance-of-ang...

defnotahuman 4y ago
This is insanely bad advice, IMO. Anger is very hard to control, can easily backfire into self-loathing and cause you to strain existing relationships, which can also further fuel internal anger at oneself. If you get mad about what happened to you and start lashing out at others, you risk isolating yourself and deepening your depression.
- HPsquared 4y ago
  Too much anger is bad. Suppressing justified anger might be unhealthy though. So long as it's moderated, anger can be an appropriate response to some things.
- tunesmith 4y ago
  anger/rage is different than violence. You can channel and physicalize anger healthily, but you also have to take it slow when learning how.
- SillyUsername 4y ago
  Second this - it can also cause a split personality, the usual inner monologue becomes abusive as you blame yourself, so you get angry at it, which feeds the condition.
- kyleyeats 4y ago
  I'm studying emotional philosophy and I think it's great advice. Executive function disorders stem from an inability to healthily feel and use anger. If you had a parent who monopolized expressions of anger during your childhood, you're going to have problems with executive function as an adult. Fear and anger are like look and leap. People who can't feel anger can only look and never leap.
  - hirvi74 4y ago
    > If you had a parent who monopolized expressions of anger during your childhood, you're going to have problems with executive function as an adult. Why is this the case?
    - kbelder 4y ago
      Nearly every statement in this entire thread needs to have a 'maybe' inserted somewhere in it.
    - kyleyeats 4y ago
      Anger's the 'do something' emotion. We associate it with the big 'do something' events like flipping over a table, but it also governs everything you do all day long.

defnotahuman 4y ago

This is insanely bad advice, IMO. Anger is very hard to control, can easily backfire into self-loathing and cause you to strain existing relationships, which can also further fuel internal anger at oneself. If you get mad about what happened to you and start lashing out at others, you risk isolating yourself and deepening your depression.

HPsquared 4y ago
Too much anger is bad. Suppressing justified anger might be unhealthy though. So long as it's moderated, anger can be an appropriate response to some things.
tunesmith 4y ago
anger/rage is different than violence. You can channel and physicalize anger healthily, but you also have to take it slow when learning how.
SillyUsername 4y ago
Second this - it can also cause a split personality, the usual inner monologue becomes abusive as you blame yourself, so you get angry at it, which feeds the condition.
kyleyeats 4y ago
I'm studying emotional philosophy and I think it's great advice. Executive function disorders stem from an inability to healthily feel and use anger. If you had a parent who monopolized expressions of anger during your childhood, you're going to have problems with executive function as an adult. Fear and anger are like look and leap. People who can't feel anger can only look and never leap.
- hirvi74 4y ago
  > If you had a parent who monopolized expressions of anger during your childhood, you're going to have problems with executive function as an adult. Why is this the case?
  - kbelder 4y ago
    Nearly every statement in this entire thread needs to have a 'maybe' inserted somewhere in it.
  - kyleyeats 4y ago
    Anger's the 'do something' emotion. We associate it with the big 'do something' events like flipping over a table, but it also governs everything you do all day long.