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I'm not a sex offender, but I've investigated a surprising number of them who worked in white-collar roles (until we crossed paths for unrelated reasons). I'm t

I'm not a sex offender, but I've investigated a surprising number of them who worked in white-collar roles (until we crossed paths for unrelated reasons). I'm taking you literally in that you're classified as an Offender and not a Predator-- if so, it is possible to find work at your level. If you're not catching fish, the solution is not seppuku. Keep trying, but maybe somewhere else. CA would be most forgiving. > nobody understands the mental illness that causes flashing Don't kid yourself-- nobody understands any mental illness as well as they pretend to. How many mental illnesses have we managed to eradicate? Just downplay your behavior as symptomatic of a then-unmanaged drinking problem. The social perception is that perverts are beyond redemption but anyone has the power to choose to stop drinking.

uwotm6 4y ago
> I'm taking you literally in that you're classified as an Offender and not a Predator-- if so, it is possible to find work at your level. His entry in the sex offender database lists him as a Sexual Predator, so he's on there for life. This is something he really should have disclosed in his post. Edit: I also found an old HN post of his from 2018 which goes into more detail: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17426515 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17426515 & https://pastebin.com/CtLFcc97 https://pastebin.com/CtLFcc97 - the comments are, I would say, quite enlightening.
- jstarfish 4y ago
  In most states, sure. From what I understand, CA (for one) makes a distinction, with nonviolent offenses like solicitation and harassment not requiring registration. Rape/molestation constitute predatory behavior and require registration. Not sure where flashing fits in or if this is even applicable. (Ed: just saw your edit, and dug up the record myself. He's not in CA so none of this is applicable.)
jstarfish 4y ago
That last part I pulled out of my ass, but it seems drinking was a legitimate problem for you in the past. Compulsiveness is not something the masses will ever understand (see also: kleptomania). Given your mental health issues, consider applying for disability as a Hail Mary. Lean into how your anxiety and compulsions interfere with your ability to work. Explore whether you have undiagnosed ADHD. I'm not advocating disability fraud, but it helps to have a secondary "physical" dysfunction to support your case (fibromyalgia is frequently claimed but I don't know how that ends). Gastrointestinal issues are also easily faked. This will take some time to build a case for, and again, I'm not advocating that you do anything fraudulent. Never, ever lie about anything in any context, ever. You don't seem to have much to lose, and some legitimate mental issues that could have led to a different life outcome were they properly addressed. Best of luck to you.
- sgammon 4y ago
  > Gastrointestinal issues are also easily faked weird post, man

uwotm6 4y ago

> I'm taking you literally in that you're classified as an Offender and not a Predator-- if so, it is possible to find work at your level. His entry in the sex offender database lists him as a Sexual Predator, so he's on there for life. This is something he really should have disclosed in his post. Edit: I also found an old HN post of his from 2018 which goes into more detail: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17426515 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17426515 & https://pastebin.com/CtLFcc97 https://pastebin.com/CtLFcc97 - the comments are, I would say, quite enlightening.

jstarfish 4y ago
In most states, sure. From what I understand, CA (for one) makes a distinction, with nonviolent offenses like solicitation and harassment not requiring registration. Rape/molestation constitute predatory behavior and require registration. Not sure where flashing fits in or if this is even applicable. (Ed: just saw your edit, and dug up the record myself. He's not in CA so none of this is applicable.)

jstarfish 4y ago

That last part I pulled out of my ass, but it seems drinking was a legitimate problem for you in the past. Compulsiveness is not something the masses will ever understand (see also: kleptomania). Given your mental health issues, consider applying for disability as a Hail Mary. Lean into how your anxiety and compulsions interfere with your ability to work. Explore whether you have undiagnosed ADHD. I'm not advocating disability fraud, but it helps to have a secondary "physical" dysfunction to support your case (fibromyalgia is frequently claimed but I don't know how that ends). Gastrointestinal issues are also easily faked. This will take some time to build a case for, and again, I'm not advocating that you do anything fraudulent. Never, ever lie about anything in any context, ever. You don't seem to have much to lose, and some legitimate mental issues that could have led to a different life outcome were they properly addressed. Best of luck to you.

sgammon 4y ago
> Gastrointestinal issues are also easily faked weird post, man