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The problem is with basic male-female relationship dynamics within the concept of marriage/family. Women are attracted to wealth and status, men are attracted t

by vinyl7 4y ago

The problem is with basic male-female relationship dynamics within the concept of marriage/family. Women are attracted to wealth and status, men are attracted to appearances. Now that women can build a career equal to men, not only do they find those men unattractive...they really have no need for a man, aside from procreation. With how expensive everything is getting, and requiring both couples to work full time careers just to be able afford a home, its just not manageable to bring children into the picture for most people. Forget about day care which costs $1500 a month. What we're seeing and will see more of is demographic changes similar to china where there are more elderly people and not enough young people to take over and care for the elderly. Beyond demographic changes, there is something behind men needing a family to take care of that makes him have worth and gives him something to keep working for. Being a career slave for nothing is probably a big part of the suicide rate among men

lordfrito 4y ago
> Women are attracted to wealth and status, men are attracted to appearances I will say this, before a certain point in my life I figured we were purely products of nurture. I tried to change values/motivations that I was biologically programmed with. When you're young you listen to the various voices all around you. Things didn't really work out until I began to realize that there's a lot of nature in us, and that can't be changed. We have to accept it and move on. I was fighting myself for the longest time and didn't know it. I thought I was trying to change the world, but really I was just refusing to accept myself. I no longer apologize for what I am, and I no longer try to change my partner. I try to be a kindler, gentler version of myself. More grace for myself, more grace for others. We are what we are. Life got a lot a easier once I accepted that.
WhiteBlueSkies 4y ago
>The problem is with basic male-female relationship dynamics within the concept of marriage/family. Women are attracted to wealth and status, men are attracted to appearances. No, this is not true. Women are attracted to apparences now more than ever. Good looks is extremely important. >Being a career slave for nothing is probably a big part of the suicide rate among men Why for nothing, at least we get paid to work.

by vinyl7 4y ago

lordfrito 4y ago

> Women are attracted to wealth and status, men are attracted to appearances I will say this, before a certain point in my life I figured we were purely products of nurture. I tried to change values/motivations that I was biologically programmed with. When you're young you listen to the various voices all around you. Things didn't really work out until I began to realize that there's a lot of nature in us, and that can't be changed. We have to accept it and move on. I was fighting myself for the longest time and didn't know it. I thought I was trying to change the world, but really I was just refusing to accept myself. I no longer apologize for what I am, and I no longer try to change my partner. I try to be a kindler, gentler version of myself. More grace for myself, more grace for others. We are what we are. Life got a lot a easier once I accepted that.

WhiteBlueSkies 4y ago

>The problem is with basic male-female relationship dynamics within the concept of marriage/family. Women are attracted to wealth and status, men are attracted to appearances. No, this is not true. Women are attracted to apparences now more than ever. Good looks is extremely important. >Being a career slave for nothing is probably a big part of the suicide rate among men Why for nothing, at least we get paid to work.