I agree that shouldn't be a zero sum game. Yet, there are undoubtedly forces at play it that cause a significant fraction of men to feel disfranchised. We can

I agree that shouldn't be a zero sum game. Yet, there are undoubtedly forces at play it that cause a significant fraction of men to feel disfranchised. We can blame that to reactionary forces, to the last blows of patriarchy, but ultimately it's a real issue and unless we find a way to communicate across the ever deeper chasm the situation can only get more serious.