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I think people have gotten things conflated. You don't have to be a jerk to get ahead. And being a jerk won't get you ahead. What you need is to not care if yo
by bena 4y ago
I think people have gotten things conflated.
You don't have to be a jerk to get ahead. And being a jerk won't get you ahead. What you need is to not care if you look like a jerk.
Sometimes you'll feel you're right so strongly that you'll just not care if people disagree with you. And when you will not budge on an item at all, people are going to think of you as a bit of a jerk.
- shanebellone 4y agoI believe some with power are jerks. I do not believe being a jerk increases efficacy. If anything, they share qualities. For example, if someone prioritizes their interests before another's, are they a jerk? The distinction depends on whichever construct you've subscribed to.
- kyleyeats 4y agoThe conflation was mostly my fault. I read "disagreeable personalities" and my head went to the Big Five. IMO a better way to think of it is that someone needs to be a jerk to get ahead. The three things we're accusing people of in this topic (being selfish, combative, and manipulative) are the three things that all companies do all the time. We want to launder that, I think.