Most of the people I know with kids would have had more if it wasn't so finances-wreckingly expensive. My wife and I would have had at least one more in that ca

Most of the people I know with kids would have had more if it wasn't so finances-wreckingly expensive. My wife and I would have had at least one more in that case, certainly. The ones who have no kids and don't want any—I don't know any of those for whom it would have made a difference, though. > What I see instead (in my professional friend circles) is people keep putting off having kids until their mid thirties because they end up so focused on their career. Some of them are doing this because having kids is so expensive. It doesn't seem possible to provide adequately for them without mid-career income (often two mid-career incomes).