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I'm sorry, but implying that developing a good personality is compensating is itself a form of bigotry. Just as it would be if I said "what she did to signal th
by throwaway920102 4y ago
I'm sorry, but implying that developing a good personality is compensating is itself a form of bigotry. Just as it would be if I said "what she did to signal that she was intelligent despite being a woman was to 'mathmax' or 'logicmax'".
In the analogy I'd be dismissing a woman's math ability as compensation for women's inferior intelligence, rather than just saying she worked hard at math or is naturally talented at math and that is cool.
In your actual post, you imply that short men can't _just_ be funny. Or _just_ have a good personality, without it being somehow tied to compensating for your own perceived negative qualities of being short.
- Clamchop 4y agoSociety seems to value the appearance of effortlessness whether it be skills, fashion, knowledge, social graces, etc. Grandparent's criticisms are just more specific versions of calling someone a "try hard". Presumably they are punching down on people who appear to be trying a little too hard to be funny. It's a shame. Being entertaining is a skill that has to be developed and sometimes it's going to look like quite a lot of work and won't be entirely successful. The audience isn't sympathetic, though, and will cry "cringe" and muse about whatever deficiency you must be making up for.