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Unclear what you think you’re supposed to do if you decide ‘hmm I probably won’t voluntarily seek out conversation with them in the future’. Making that person

Unclear what you think you’re supposed to do if you decide ‘hmm I probably won’t voluntarily seek out conversation with them in the future’. Making that personal choice doesn’t mean you don’t respect them; it’s not ‘fake’ to have the grace of ‘showing up’ in the interaction, even if it’s not going to be a repeat interaction. The author didn’t sufficiently bow and pronounce himself but a humble peasant, but that doesn’t mean he should be targeted to be knocked down a few pegs; we all must make our own “rules”, or principles and guidelines, for interacting with one another.

xnickb 4y ago
> Unclear what you think you’re supposed to do if you decide ‘hmm I probably won’t voluntarily seek out conversation with them in the future’. For example if a person interrupting you is not acceptable for you, it's healthy to point that out. For example I'm okay woth being interrupting and I don't see a problem interrupting someone who is making a point I already understood but they're being unnecessarily verbose. Likewise, I'd point out that I resonate with the points they're trying to express and they don't need to be as verbose to make sure they're understood. However I do see it as rude when a person doesn't understand the point someone is trying to make and then reacts with "Nice" after a long explanation and never seeks a conversation again, because "they didn't get enough time under the spotlight". That being said, I generally align with what is said in the article, but it is presented from a very weird perspective of a "I-know-it-all" kinda person.