100%. Took me a very long time to learn this, but if your partner does not assume good intent, by default, and give you a chance to explain yourself (and vice v

100%. Took me a very long time to learn this, but if your partner does not assume good intent, by default, and give you a chance to explain yourself (and vice versa), you’re in an abusive relationship and should get out. I’ve been in it, and it was awful and destroyed me for many years, and I couldn’t be happier to have found someone who treats me with respect now.